Deepen: Authentic Relating

Upcoming Authentic Relating retreat

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The majority of our wounding and challenges in life stem from our issues in relating with others. It is therefore also in contact with others that we can address them and heal.

True connection and intimacy, which we all crave, can only be created by being honest. We often fear that we will be rejected if we show the parts of ourselves that like to remain hidden, parts we deem unacceptable or shameful. But paradoxically, when we muster up the courage to do so, it generally creates more connection, not less. It is the hiding that creates distance, not the truth.

The first step is learning to be honest with ourselves. As children, it’s unlikely that we felt unconditionally accepted, or validated in our authentic experience and expression. Over time, most of us learnt that certain feelings are not welcome, and therefore suppressed them. So to truly connect with ourselves, we must learn to feel again. Our feelings contain vital information that can help guide us towards a more authentic, aligned and fulfilling life. Allowing the energy in emotions to flow in a healthy way can also make us feel more alive.

 

This Authentic Relating Deepen retreat will be an opportunity to embark on a very human journey, finding the freedom to be yourself, and learning healing ways of relating.

The psychedelic ceremony will be a powerful support in helping you connect with yourself more deeply – it can reveal unwholesome, inauthentic patterns of relating to yourself and others, and it can give you a taste of what it can be like to live free of such patterns.

The work surrounding the ceremony will support this process by equipping you with powerful self-awareness, embodiment and relationship skills. It will enable you to step into more mature, adult relating: listening compassionately, speaking courageously, and leaving the disempowering traps of judgement, blame and victimisation by taking responsibility for our needs and feelings.

Who is it for?

Our Deepen retreats are available to all those who have already participated in one of our Open retreats. The content of the retreat is more advanced, providing participants with an opportunity for deeper inquiry and a larger step out of their comfort zone and into their potential. At the same time there is an ease of familiarity in the group from having been on a similar journey before that creates a lightness as well as mutual companionship and support to go deeper.

Disclaimer

  • Our retreats are for people in good mental and physical health. We do not offer therapeutic or medical treatment.
  • Even though the vast majority of our participants have very meaningful and beneficial experiences, there is no guaranteed outcome from participating on a retreat.
  • The majority of research indicating the positive effects of psilocybin was done in a clinical setting, which is very different to that of a retreat environment. More research is needed to explore the benefits offered by the psilocybin experience.

What’s included?

PREPARATION SUPPORT

Giving due energy to preparation before the psychedelic journey not only reduces the possibility of anxiety and tension blocking the flow of the experience, it also enhances the probability of an enriched, deeper experience. We offer one-on-one sessions with the facilitators, and individual and group activities to help you feel well prepared and supported, as well as safe and bonded with the group before stepping into the unknown.

 

INTEGRATION SUPPORT

In many ways, the journey only really begins when the psychedelic effect subsides. In the days after the ceremony, we incorporate solo and group integration activities, and individual one-on-one sessions with the facilitators to give you the opportunity to explore the deeper nuances of your journey. We also offer 9 months of ongoing support – through group video calls as well as suggested exercises – to help you weave the insights from the retreat back into your everyday life.

“The attention to integration was amazing, extremely impactful, and probably the main reason I’d recommend these retreats.” Li, 32 years old

GROUP EXERCISES & GROUP SUPPORT

On the retreat we can safely explore relating to one another in a held and loving space. Tremendous healing comes from being witnessed and accepted as who we are.  In traditional contexts, psychedelics have often been used in group settings, the benefits of which were recently explored in a research study. The group is also a major resource in the integration process. In a society that hasn’t yet incorporated the use of psychedelics and other peak experiences into its fabric, the community of fellow retreat participants plays a central role as allies and companions on this extraordinary journey.

“I learned so much simply from being in the company of fellow participants, facilitators and volunteers. It was so wonderful to feel part of such a supportive community.” Duncan, 35 years old

MEDITATION & CONTEMPLATIVE EXERCISES

By settling into the here-and-now of our present, embodied experience, the agitation of the mind subsides and gives way to a profound sense of presence and peace, from which love and compassion naturally arise. We begin to access deeper layers of ourselves, and sharpen our capacity for insight into the nature of reality. By learning to attend to, work with, and direct the flow of our awareness, we are more equipped to navigate not just the psychedelic experience, but the journey of life itself.

Embodiment practices

We incorporate different activities to start reinhabiting our bodies. We begin the journey of learning to better hear, understand and respond to the messages our body is constantly sending and receiving. Being more embodied also allows us to more fully enjoy the pleasures of being a living, breathing, seeing, smelling, hearing, tasting, sensing human being. Movement and embodiment exercises can also help us get out of our usual controlling thinking mind, and access more freedom, creativity and flow.

NATURE CONNECTION

We invite you on a break from the disconnecting effects of technology and city life and into an engagement with the natural world, which can make us feel more resourced, grounded, alive and remind us of our belonging to and interconnectedness with all of life. Observing nature, we learn about the way of life, and we learn about ourselves. Being immersed in it, we reconnect with our own life force and regain access to the creativity and resilience that flows through all life.

HEALTHY, EXQUISITE FOOD

“Let food be thy medicine” (Hippocrates). “We are what we eat” (folk wisdom). Food is one of life’s extraordinary expressions of love: full of abundance, richness and creativity. On our retreats we honour and celebrate that by cooking with the same spirit of love and creativity, and sourcing produce locally and organically where possible to do our part in taking care of the Earth in turn.

CREATIVE EXPRESSION

Creativity is our birthright. Many of us have been conditioned to believe that we are not creative and artistic, that we cannot sing or dance. At Alalaho, we believe that if we can speak, we can sing, and if we can walk, we can dance. Creative, non-linear expression has been a key part of what it means to be human across culture and time. Our retreats offer easy, accessible exercises to support each participant to let go of some self-limiting beliefs at their own pace, and to let themselves be guided by the creative life force living at their core.

RITUAL AND CEREMONY

“Ritual allows us to transcend passivity and become active agents in changing our own lives” (Caroline Casey). Rituals and ceremonies allow us to mark important moments in time, such as navigating big life transitions, processing grief, or setting intentions. We learn to gather our awareness and conscious energy and pour it into the moment, transforming a seemingly mundane act and imbuing it with power and meaning.

MEDITATION & CONTEMPLATIVE EXERCISES

By settling into the here-and-now of our present, embodied experience, the agitation of the mind subsides and gives way to a profound sense of presence and peace, from which love and compassion naturally arise. We begin to access deeper layers of ourselves, and sharpen our capacity for insight into the nature of reality. By learning to attend to, work with, and direct the flow of our awareness, we are more equipped to navigate not just the psychedelic experience, but the journey of life itself.

Embodiment practices

We incorporate different activities to start reinhabiting our bodies. We begin the journey of learning to better hear, understand and respond to the messages our body is constantly sending and receiving. Being more embodied also allows us to more fully enjoy the pleasures of being a living, breathing, seeing, smelling, hearing, tasting, sensing human being. Movement and embodiment exercises can also help us get out of our usual controlling thinking mind, and access more freedom, creativity and flow.

NATURE CONNECTION

We invite you on a break from the disconnecting effects of technology and city life and into an engagement with the natural world, which can make us feel more resourced, grounded, alive and remind us of our belonging to and interconnectedness with all of life. Observing nature, we learn about the way of life, and we learn about ourselves. Being immersed in it, we reconnect with our own life force and regain access to the creativity and resilience that flows through all life.

HEALTHY, EXQUISITE FOOD

“Let food be thy medicine” (Hippocrates). “We are what we eat” (folk wisdom). Food is one of life’s extraordinary expressions of love: full of abundance, richness and creativity. On our retreats we honour and celebrate that by cooking with the same spirit of love and creativity, and sourcing produce locally and organically where possible to do our part in taking care of the Earth in turn.

CREATIVE EXPRESSION

Creativity is our birthright. Many of us have been conditioned to believe that we are not creative and artistic, that we cannot sing or dance. At Alalaho, we believe that if we can speak, we can sing, and if we can walk, we can dance. Creative, non-linear expression has been a key part of what it means to be human across culture and time. Our retreats offer easy, accessible exercises to support each participant to let go of some self-limiting beliefs at their own pace, and to let themselves be guided by the creative life force living at their core.

RITUAL AND CEREMONY

“Ritual allows us to transcend passivity and become active agents in changing our own lives” (Caroline Casey). Rituals and ceremonies allow us to mark important moments in time, such as navigating big life transitions, processing grief, or setting intentions. We learn to gather our awareness and conscious energy and pour it into the moment, transforming a seemingly mundane act and imbuing it with power and meaning.

“It is through the examination of our responses to others that we discover our true selves.” Isa Gucciardi

Sample Schedule

Day 1: Landing
2.00pm Meet in Amsterdam + travel by coach together
6.00pm Arrive at the venue
7.00pm Dinner
8.30pm Opening Circle
9.30pm Group connection activity
Day 2: Preparation
9.00am Morning practice
10.00am Breakfast
11.00am Preparation activities
1.30pm Lunch
3.00pm Preparation actitivies
4.00pm One-to-one’s with facilitators
6.00pm Preparation activities
8.00pm Dinner
Day 3: Ceremony
9.00am Morning practice
10.00am Breakfast
11.30am Opening ritual
1.00pm Ceremony begins
6.00pm Closing ritual
8.00pm Dinner
Day 4: Integration
9.00am Morning practice
10.00am Breakfast
11.30am Sharing Circle
1.30pm Lunch
3.00pm One-to-one’s with facilitators
4.00pm Integration activities
8.00pm Celebratory Feast
9.30pm Celebration
Day 5: Landing
9.00am Morning practice
10.00am Breakfast
11.00am Integration Talk
12.30pm Closing Circle
1.30pm Departure

Prices

4 Day Retreat — 2,150€ / 5 Day Retreat — 2,450€ /